North Coast residents have been reeling for more than a month since learning that two people they knew and loved had committed suicide within two days of each other. The deaths happened a hundred miles apart and were linked only by timing and the victims’ ties to Cambria. Their families have already suffered too much, so I won’t mention their names.
Suicide is an act of personal despair, an individual release from pain that shifts the agony into the hearts of those left behind.
From the outside in, those two wonderful people seemed to have had everything for which to live. Instead, after battling clinical depression for most of their lives, each made the conscious decision to die.
Why? Nobody can answer that. And nobody could have prevented it. As the priest said at one of the services, there was nothing, nothing any of us could have done. We could not have stopped the suicides, no matter how ready and willing to help we were.
Shirley Bianchi understands. Her adopted granddaughter, a clinically depressed preteen, committed suicide in 2000. “You know the ‘what if’ in your mind is a dead end, but still it haunts you. You ask yourself, ‘Could I have helped?’” the former county supervisor said. “No. There’s nothing you could have done.”
Most of us are deeply sad or depressed at some time in our lives. Usually, it’s short term and triggered by events, not chemistry.
Clinical depression, however, is a disease like diabetes, cancer or heart disease. Nobody is to blame, so there should be no stigma, only love and compassion.
Local psychologist Steve Brody likened clinically depressed patients to diabetics, because both “have been biochemically hijacked.” Simply stated, depressives’ brains have short-circuited.
Economic, social and educational levels don’t matter. Neither does age, although healthy, active seniors seem more immune. Children can be clinically depressed. So can elderly people, teens, young mothers, hearty grandpas. Anybody.
Deep depression is so much more than a permanently broken heart or spirit. It’s not something you can ignore, fix with a pep talk or wish away. You don’t “get over it.” It’s insidious, agonizing to watch in someone you love and difficult to diagnose and treat.
Are you depressed because you’re tired or ill or stressed to the max? Or are you stressed, sick and exhausted because you’re biochemically depressed?
Brody’s clients often ask him “Why am I depressed?” and “How long will this last?” Even specialists have a tough time answering such questions.
People can take do-it-yourself “depression inventories,” quick and simple questionnaires that can help identify what’s happening. However, because it’s so easy to self-diagnose incorrectly, it’s wise to have a professional interpret the test.
But “people with biochemical depression don’t have to tough it out alone,” Brody said. “You don’t have to go to a psychiatrist or psychologist — they handle the tricky cases. First talk to your primary physician or your minister, or ask for referrals from friends who’ve battled depression.”
Some medical-insurance programs have mental-health hotlines with strong privacy protections. The county’s “Hotline also is a great resource of information and referral. They’ll listen,” and then refer the caller to others who can help, Brody said. He also recommends the Community Counseling Center in San Luis Obispo.
Brody said patients also shouldn’t shy away from anti-depressive medicines, which can be “tremendously helpful, a good biochemical alternative.”
All that help is available, but the depressive person must be ready to take those steps and stick with treatments. Some simply can’t cope.
When such tragedies strike, caring Cambrians know what to do. They cry, hug, reach out and then go on.
We heal by talking about our late friends and sharing activities that made them smile while they were alive. We remember their passions — in this case, classical music, bicycle racing, 4-H, ocean sports, children.
We also can honor our friends by giving … to Jim Ellman’s “Bikes for Tikes” drive, for instance, or Allied Arts Association so a child can learn to play a musical instrument. Sponsor a youngster for surfing camp. Help a kid with a 4-H project.
Or take your children or grandchildren to the beach, a concert or on a bicycle ride. Think happy thoughts about your friend. Smile and remember the good times.
Then be grateful for the goodness of life you have.
Help is available
• Hotline of San Luis Obispo, 549-8989 (toll-free at 800-549-8989)
• Community Counseling Center, 1129 Marsh St., San Luis Obispo, 543-7969
• National Crisis Hotline, 800-SUICIDE
E-mail Kathe Tanner at ktanner@thetribunenews.com.
Thursday, August 23, 2007
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Kathe, we were stunned like the rest of you when we heard of the passing of these two people. As twelve-year homeowners and frequent visitors to Cambria, we had gotten to know the Linn family. We watched as Justin went back and forth to Hawaii, then back to Pacific Grove. We saw him within the past few months when he was in town to help out with Easy As Pie. Always an earnest young man, he had a fun sense of humor and, amazingly, always remembered our names although he might not have seen us for months. I cannot imagine the heart break the Linn family is feeling now, but your article in The Cambrian and this blog entry have been very special. Your insightful view and soft touch helped put these tragedies into perspective. Thanks for that. We'll look for you and Richard at Pinedorado - we owe you a hug.
The victims needs a lot of attention towards the depression state. We watched as Justin went back and forth to Hawaii, then back to Pacific Grove. We saw him within the past few months when he was in town to help out with Easy As Pie.
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